Help me aid my dad's alcoholism. - Page 2

K? Pŕo?ćtiόnŹ · 01-15-2007, 07:02 AM

Convince him to drive past the police station while totally wasted.

bulk_4me · 01-15-2007, 07:04 AM

To be honest, unless he decides to quit the habit there's **** you can do. If you suggest he has a problem chances are he will get mad, minimize it or just runaway. Unfortunately sometimes people need to fall hard to realize they've a problem. Hang in there and good luck.

Aberrant · 01-15-2007, 07:26 AM

I think the video and a serious discussion while he is sober is a great idea. Let him know how it makes you feel. Having your sister, and any other siblings, help with it may help as well.

As for having a dad that plays video games, I play as much as I can and have 2 kids. Is it really that odd?

gamepin126 · 01-15-2007, 08:15 AM

Food poison + alcohol = sober people

IversonAli3 · 01-15-2007, 08:52 AM

Unless he acknowledges his problem, and honestly admits that he wants to quit theres nothing you can do to force him. Seeing as how he has trouble controlling his impulses, forcing him to quit against his will would have catastrophic results.

Poon · 01-15-2007, 10:27 AM

i agree with bulk and IA3. there is nothing you can do. you can't force him to stop. there are two ways that druggies and alcoholics stop, they are forced by a judge or they quit on their own will. im sure there is a clinic that have interpreters.

**** all of you *******s that answered with implausible ideas. this is a serious problem.

Ctark · 01-15-2007, 01:38 PM

i agree with poontang, about the interpreters, im sure something like AA would have them, and i strongly agree with the talk w/ video, it really hits hard when they see what they are like.
but unless he wants to stop no one can make him.

GL man

punture · 01-17-2007, 01:55 AM

Thank you for all of you. Basically Iversonali hit the home run on this problem...
My mom decided to talk to him seriously about it, but it backfired. He blamed my mom for not helping him during hard situations that led him to drink.... which to me is total bull****. After that, my mom said I shouldn't talk to him because that will only get him upset towards me...
Right now, I do not have a video of him drunk, and it is not going to be easy making one because I would have to be there in front of him, but if I do manage to get this, I think it would be an effective tool because when he wakes up, he does not remember anything he did.
Oh btw.. I have to mention that he is depressed. He is reluctant to see a counsellor (because he is a doctor... he thinks its weird). His depression is the main reason why he drinks... so that's why I think finding a hobby will also help because a hobby tend to releived stress and take the mind off of some of the things..

Anyways, thank you for all of your help. It really helped me decide how I should approach this problem, instead of just going with it with my gut instinct. +rep

Aberrant · 01-17-2007, 03:14 AM

He may get mad at you as well. But on the other hand, if he sees that it is not just your mom that might get through to him. Also you will find that a bond between a dad and his son is a lot stronger than the bond between a man and his wife. I know that is true for me with my sons.

Still having the video will be the best ammo. Good luck

TeflonDon · 01-17-2007, 03:57 AM

Originally Posted by llaf
www.smith-wesson.com

Nickolay said that.

BloodyBlade · 01-17-2007, 04:02 AM

If you don't at least try to help him you will regret it when you're older.

Otaku · 01-17-2007, 04:50 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TeflonDon

Originally Posted by llaf
www.smith-wesson.com

Help me aid my dad's alcoholism.

YonderKnight · 01-17-2007, 05:07 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Otaku

Help me aid my dad's alcoholism.

Damn I'm Screwed

punture · 01-17-2007, 06:58 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TeflonDon

Originally Posted by llaf
www.smith-wesson.com

Nickolay said that.

If you mean to shoot him, go to hell.

guy476 · 01-17-2007, 07:21 AM

hows he a doctor if he doesnt speak english?

01-15-2007, 07:02 AM	#21 (permalink)
K? Pŕo?ćtiόnŹ =) Senior Member Retired Staff Member Messiah Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Okinawa Posts: 9,650	Convince him to drive past the police station while totally wasted. __________________
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01-15-2007, 07:04 AM	#22 (permalink)
bulk_4me F7 F1EF Senior Member Retired Staff Member Enlightened Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Torreón, Coah. México Posts: 3,233	To be honest, unless he decides to quit the habit there's **** you can do. If you suggest he has a problem chances are he will get mad, minimize it or just runaway. Unfortunately sometimes people need to fall hard to realize they've a problem. Hang in there and good luck. __________________
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01-15-2007, 07:26 AM	#23 (permalink)
Aberrant Senior Member Blessed Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: In an Igloo Posts: 2,371	I think the video and a serious discussion while he is sober is a great idea. Let him know how it makes you feel. Having your sister, and any other siblings, help with it may help as well. As for having a dad that plays video games, I play as much as I can and have 2 kids. Is it really that odd? __________________ I ban you Otaku for making me check :P Have you seen my penguins?
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01-15-2007, 08:15 AM	#24 (permalink)
gamepin126 Senior Member Retired Staff Member Celestial Entity Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 19,566	Food poison + alcohol = sober people __________________ Set a trashcan on fire and keep a bum warm for a night. Set the bum on fire, and keep him warm for the rest of his life. -- If debugging is the process of removing bugs, then programming must be the process of putting them in. - Edsger Dijkstra
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IversonAli3 Funtastic Rainbow Squad Senior Member Moderator Crusader Join Date: Aug 2004 Posts: 3,649	Unless he acknowledges his problem, and honestly admits that he wants to quit theres nothing you can do to force him. Seeing as how he has trouble controlling his impulses, forcing him to quit against his will would have catastrophic results. __________________ "Wise men speak because they have something to say; fools because they have to say something." -Plato Need medical advice? Send me your inquiries through PM or on AIM.
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01-15-2007, 10:27 AM	#26 (permalink)
Poon :) Senior Member Gold Member High Priest Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 1,712	i agree with bulk and IA3. there is nothing you can do. you can't force him to stop. there are two ways that druggies and alcoholics stop, they are forced by a judge or they quit on their own will. im sure there is a clinic that have interpreters. ** all of you *****s that answered with implausible ideas. this is a serious problem.
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01-15-2007, 01:38 PM	#27 (permalink)
Ctark High Priest Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Toronto, Ontario, Canada! Posts: 1,699	i agree with poontang, about the interpreters, im sure something like AA would have them, and i strongly agree with the talk w/ video, it really hits hard when they see what they are like. but unless he wants to stop no one can make him. GL man __________________ Ctark Llaf/Disco '08 *Secretary to the Union Representative.*
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01-17-2007, 01:55 AM	#28 (permalink)
punture Senior Member Saint Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Vancouver, B.C. Canada Posts: 6,151	Thank you for all of you. Basically Iversonali hit the home run on this problem... My mom decided to talk to him seriously about it, but it backfired. He blamed my mom for not helping him during hard situations that led him to drink.... which to me is total bull****. After that, my mom said I shouldn't talk to him because that will only get him upset towards me... Right now, I do not have a video of him drunk, and it is not going to be easy making one because I would have to be there in front of him, but if I do manage to get this, I think it would be an effective tool because when he wakes up, he does not remember anything he did. Oh btw.. I have to mention that he is depressed. He is reluctant to see a counsellor (because he is a doctor... he thinks its weird). His depression is the main reason why he drinks... so that's why I think finding a hobby will also help because a hobby tend to releived stress and take the mind off of some of the things.. Anyways, thank you for all of your help. It really helped me decide how I should approach this problem, instead of just going with it with my gut instinct. +rep __________________
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01-17-2007, 03:14 AM	#29 (permalink)
Aberrant Senior Member Blessed Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: In an Igloo Posts: 2,371	He may get mad at you as well. But on the other hand, if he sees that it is not just your mom that might get through to him. Also you will find that a bond between a dad and his son is a lot stronger than the bond between a man and his wife. I know that is true for me with my sons. Still having the video will be the best ammo. Good luck __________________ I ban you Otaku for making me check :P Have you seen my penguins?
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01-17-2007, 03:57 AM	#30 (permalink)
TeflonDon Deviant Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 105	Originally Posted by llaf www.smith-wesson.com Nickolay said that.
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01-17-2007, 07:21 AM	#35 (permalink)
guy476 Crusader Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: in the western hemisphere Posts: 3,348	hows he a doctor if he doesnt speak english? __________________
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