Help me aid my dad's alcoholism.

[punture]

Normally, I don't discuss family problem to other people, especially to a group of people whom I barely know. But I figured this would be the best, anonymous way to get some advises to help my dad beat alcoholism.

Well, my dad started drinking since High School, and he was one of those who had to drink until he was stoned. This continued throughout his life. He is a doctor right now, but such a career comes with a very high stress level. He relieves this by drinking. But... during the day, he is modest, admirable, healthy person, but as soon as he drinks and gets stoned, he becomes an abusive, destructive person. Today, he almost killed my dog, and I decided to talk to him about it.

But, the thing is talking won't cut it. I know this because my mom and my sister have tried for their entire lives.
Going to a clinic is not an option because he is foreign and can't speak English.

So.. any suggestions?

[K? Pŕo?ćtiόnŹ]

Sneak into his alcohol, let yourself get caught by him, and be wasted when he does.

[Kenshyn]

Hmm.... :/
Did you or your family already try telling him that you don't like him like this?
Try and get him onto something new to relieve his stress like running or lifting weights.

[BloodyBlade]

Originally Posted by K? Pŕo?ćtiόnŹ

Sneak into his alcohol, let yourself get caught by him, and be wasted when he does.

That quite honestly is not a bad idea.

Just make sure you get absolutely ****faced and do something mean/destructive.

[Uniquely_Defined]

Nothing like Father-Son bonding like a conglomerate of deranged idiotic behavior. But in all seriousness: have him watch house, suggest a hobby (he'd go on about how busy he is and how he'd never have time, this is why you should pick something that suits his character. There's nothing to take someone's mind off of anxiety like a good dose of caring for something you don't need to care for), and kinky sex(be it with your mom, or a hooker - your prerogative).

It may sound like I'm taking your dad's situation lightly, and by comparison I am. However, I did make sure to take my suggestions seriously.

[Rowingdude]

buy him more booze.. nothing aids an alcoholic like fresh Grey goose

[punture]

Um.. thanks guys... I think suggesting him a hobby would be a good idea.
+rep

[Otaku]

Originally Posted by llaf

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[gevorgkhc]

Give him a warehouse full of drugs. He won't touch alcohol ever again......

Try sitting down with him when he's sober. Fathers like it when they're sons tries to bond with them. Talk to him about his alcoholism. You might want to take a small video when he's drunk and show it to him when he's sober. He'll probably understand how bad it is then. And try to make him promise you that he will only drink like half of what he's drinking right now. If his judgment isn't as ****ed up as before, he won't be as 'abusive' or 'destructive'.

[YonderKnight]

I had some suggestions but they were already mentioned here. I think a videotape of him drunk is a good idea, also finding a hobby for him. I was also going to suggest seeing a family counselor but I guess that won't work because of the whole english thing.

If stress is the problem, try looking up some ways to deal with stress. Get him hooked on video games or something.

[Uniquely_Defined]

People can still drink and play video games. Well, not proficiently, but they can have fun nonetheless. It has to be a hobby that would make him strive to not be drunk.

[YonderKnight]

Well, I figure if he gets home and right away starts thinking about whatever hobby, he won't start thinking about drinking because he won't get bored or stressed or whatever.

[Uniquely_Defined]

Yes, but suggesting video gaming as a viable hobby could prove to be potentially problematic.

[gevorgkhc]

Originally Posted by Uniquely_Defined

Yes, but suggesting video gaming as a viable hobby could prove to be potentially problematic.

Well..... only if he thinks they're stupid. If he starts to like video games, he'll be an awesome dad

[Uniquely_Defined]

You entirely missed my point. It's probably not wise to spout off about what he could be if he shapes up and accept the facts in the meantime. Too many people are blindsided by hope and lose sight of their initial cause. In many cases, the severity of an issue doesn't sink in until it's too late; which is something we want to avoid.